Saturday, July 10, 2021

Dad is still dead

 But sis felt the need to remind me on Hucksterman Central that today would have been his birthday. It was to talk about some better memory at her church.

She said that his birthday prompted memories of childhood from some visitors, and from our brothers, which in no way did she directly connect with dad's birthday either.

I said I'd totally forgotten about the date years ago and politely added that I didn't need reminding in the future.

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And, it appears I broke my foot off in it or something.

She made a comment back a couple hours later then apparently deleted the post as I get the "unavailable" from Hucksterman.

I was polite about it, and before I said what I did at the end, I first said that I was glad she got a better memory.

That said, I think she sometimes assumes ... no, I FEEL as well as think she sometimes assumes that I frame and/or process and/or psychologically react to all of childhood's traumas that we largely shared (even if not specific incidents) in the same way.

I don't.

Of course, she has also assumed that Walt made me an atheist, as has Tim as part of his blame-shifting. IIRC, and I seem to have deleted the email she sent me, and the draft of the response I was writing to her (unless that's an auto-deletion of older drafts by Microslob), though it's mentioned in another post here. I think she thinks dad was responsible, too, not just Walt.

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I might have been a little blunt, but I wasn't rude. And, really. I've moved on. I remembered Dad's 90th birthday anniversary a year ago, and Mom's 90th before that, and think I had NOT remembered regularly for at least four-five years before that. 

Actually, the paragraph above is half-wrong, I'm reminded, by looking through posts. I didn't remember Dad's 90th until after she reminded me, per this.

I hope to remember none of their birthday anniversaries before their 100th, and would be fine if I don't remember that one, either.

1 comment:

Gadfly said...

I read this 16 months later, and although Marie takes me more as "me" than Tim, or Paul accusing me of false memory syndrome, I still don't feel she takes me totally as "me."